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25 Songs, 25 Days (Day 9) A Song That Makes You Feel Hopeful

I get knocked down every now and then, just like the rest of you.  Life’s a bitch, ain’t she?

When they ask me, “Are you okay?”  I respond, “How else you gonna be?”  Then I have a really good cry, dry off my face, slap on some makeup and get up again.  You’re never gonna keep me down.

 

Peace . . .

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It Is What It is . . . Unless . . .

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Wikipedia explains,

 

It Is What It Is’ is an idiomatic phrase, indicating the immutable nature of an object or circumstance.

 

 

Urban Dictionary is more explicit.

 

Used often in the business world, this incredibly versatile phrase can be literally translated as “fuck it.”
‘The client changed the deadline to today? Well, it is what it is.’

 

Kacey Musgraves sings,

 

Maybe I love you,
Maybe I’m just kind of bored,
It is what it is
Till it ain’t,
Anymore”

 

I’d like to live just one day without hearing this hopeless statement.  The expression is for those who give up; for those who don’t care.  I hate it when this one creeps into my language.  Upon hearing the words leave my lips, I flinch — a mechanical reaction to a thoughtless expression spoken in defeat.

 

Have we become so ineffective at engaging change in our lives or the lives of those around us that we throw up our hands at the first sign of adversity?  Perhaps we have forgotten that mistakes are forgiven.  How much easier it is to say that fate has intervened again.  We accept no responsibility.  We are not accountable.  No fault, no foul.  It is what it is.

 

Instead, ask yourself, “Is it really?”

 

  • “The bill came to $275.  It is what it is.”  Maybe you were mis-charged.  Maybe you can get it cheaper elsewhere.  Maybe you can barter, or work out a payment plan.  Maybe everything just costs a lot of money and you don’t have any, but be accountable.  Saying ‘it is what it is’ releases you from any blame or action plan.
  • “My boss chewed my ass.  It is what it is.”  Maybe you deserved it.  Maybe you deserve a different boss, or job, or work environment.  Maybe you don’t get paid enough to deal with that kind of stress.  Maybe you just aren’t capable of the job you’re in.  Keep your resume fresh.  Keep networking.  Keep your reputation clean.  Talk to your boss and work it out, or get yourself out of there.
  • “The customer wants what?  It is what it is.”  Maybe the customer’s expectations are unreasonable.  Maybe this is the last straw for him.  Maybe the customer just doesn’t understand the limitations of his request.  One thing is for sure.  What the customer doesn’t need to hear is that “it is what it is.”
  • “It’s raining on my parade.  It is what it is.”  Maybe the weather is going to change for the better.  Maybe the rain will keep the crowds down, and you will enjoy the parade even more.  Maybe it isn’t even all about you.  Maybe the farmers could use the rain.  But if the sun decides to come out, you are going to look awfully silly sitting there with that big ol’ pout on your mug.
  • “My husband made me feel like crap.  It is what it is.”  Maybe your spouse had no intention of making you feel bad.  Maybe he would be appalled to find out he hurt you.  Maybe he even meant that remark as an insult, but are you really going to let it ferment inside you like that?  Grow up and talk it over like a big girl.  You may find your relationship is better than it ever has been.  Honesty has a way of doing that.

I’m not saying you shouldn’t embrace a good old-fashioned depression now and then.  The last thing I want when I’m feeling down is for someone to make me feel guilty about being sad.  Get out a full box of Keelnex® and have at it!  Then put on your big person pants and go back to what you do best.

 

Plan your escape.  Win over the customer.  Kiss your boss’s backside.  Love your spouse.  Fix the problem.  Prevent it from happening again.  Say you’re sorry.  Do something that keeps you true to YOU.  Make yourself proud.

 

“It is what it is” never did anything but keep things stagnant.

 

Peace . . .

 

 

 

 

 

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Are You Still Here?

DSCN0902_2_2Are we absolutely sure the apocalypse didn’t come in 2012 and we missed it?  Can we do a head count here?  Knowing what to expect might have helped me know where to look.  Were zombies supposed to inherit the earth, was Jesus showing up for dinner, or was the earth just going to explode?

What I’m saying is, perhaps the apocalypse did happen, and we were looking in the wrong direction.  Is it possible the Hopi fifth world arrived, but it just looks an awful lot like the fourth one?  Was a baby born on the 21st of December in 2012 who will change the course of Global Warming?  Maybe the apocalypse is somewhat of a gradual movement toward a better world more than the total destruction of the one we know.  We won’t really notice it until one day we look back and say, “Hey, didn’t the world used to be a much worse place?”

If you’re looking for doomsday, just check out the morning paper.  It’s here.  People living their days on earth in hell.  Lonely people.  Hungry elderly.  Children with no one to teach them how to find the good in themselves.  Children gunned down in the middle of their play.  People living in fear.  People with no hope.  Not like those days when you wake up and life seems hopeless.  I’m talking about a real total depletion of hope.  No hope of hope.

It’s 2013.  Are you still here?  Don’t dread the apocalypse . . . I say we’re ready for it.  Don’t wait for it to happen, bring it on! Make it happen!  Stop preparing for the worst and start initiating the change.  Be the Shift!

  1. Smile.  You don’t know what someone else is going through today.  Your smile could save a life.
  2. Hold a door.  I don’t care if it’s a big burly guy or a someone with a stroller.  Common courtesy requests you hold the door.
  3. Give blood.  For goodness’ sake get over your fear of needles.  You want to know what fear is?  Cancer.  Liver disease.  Major surgery.  Car accidents.  Premature babies.  Losing your loved one.  Not everyone can give blood, so if you can, why aren’t you?  It’s the ultimate renewable resource!
  4. Treat a child with respect.  Children are people, too.
  5. Hold your horn.  Try to limit your honking to those situations where some idiot really tried to kill you for the sole purpose of getting ahead in traffic.  If he just needs to get over because he didn’t see his exit coming up, for crying out loud, let him over.
  6. Wave.  I treat my suburban neighborhood like a rural country road.  Ever notice how country folks wave at everyone?  We’re all just country folk.  We just live a little closer to our neighbors.
  7. Thank.  Don’t just say thanks.  Say thanks for [fill in the blank].  Thanks for being so prompt!  Thanks for telling me that!  Thanks for giving me the opportunity to help you!  Thanks for sending me that bill . . . okay, don’t overdo it.
  8. Share.  Plant a bigger garden than you need.  Donate books to a library.  Give away things you don’t use.  Share your skills.  Share your knowledge.  Hug more.

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Do what you can, with what you have, where you are. ~~Theodore Roosevelt

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Can you imagine if you woke up this morning, in 2013, and everyone had a shift of global awareness?  Be the apocalypse.  How will you change the world this year?

Related Links:

United Global Shift:  Projects (Start small, check out the Peace Promises)

Tiny Buddah:  25 Ways to Make a Difference (Listed as quotes)

Scott Berkun:  Essay #49 (Scott is a writer whose popular topics are writing, creativity and management)